An Email from A Breast Cancer Survivor

Just What You Need.....more advice

Hi Karen

I have been following your blog and your incredible journey. I have been silent in my advice because the only thing I can advise is to do what your higher self tells you is right and good and correct.

But, I do have something to share. You may or may not remember that I am a breast cancer survivor. It was also quite a journey, although in no way as intense as yours.

I learned lots. This is what I want to share, (but you probably already know !!!), Much of the friendly( as in friends, not as in medical or alternative knowledge) advice you will get ( to do or not to do. to medicate or not to medicate. etc) comes from good intent, but is often based in someone's own dark and personal fear. Their fear for you...their fear for themselves. In my case, I had to stop sharing and talking with some friends...and they were and are my friends...because I just could not take on their fear. I had enough of my own personal fear thank you very much ...I did not want and could not carry theirs. True Yogis are strong. Not everyone is. Sometimes good intent coming from fear just gums up the works if you know what I mean. I found myself reassuring people that I was OK so they would be OK. It was exhausting and not doing me any good. I don't know if this is happening to you....but if you find this is where things are going with someone....just take care not to absorb their fear. I hope you don't think I am nuts...well, maybe I am...but this was just my experience and perhaps somewhere it may be helpful for you. One example which happened to me...and won't happen to you.....I called a friend who I knew for many years here in Santa Fe when I was first diagnosed because I thought she would be a good emotional support. When I told her my circumstance, she said " I am so upset and freaked out I can't talk to you right now. I can't handle this. I will call you back and we will discuss what is happening". I NEVER heard from her again. Can you believe it????? I finally ran into 5 years later and she asked how I was........really !!!!!

So my friend, take strength from those who can give it, reject fear when it comes knocking on your door, and know that many love you right along side of God. Who knows what any of this means....but if you find out.....I"ll be first on your list to listen.

I send you my love and my positive energy.
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A friend